Getting Over An Ex Is Simple, So Why Are You Complicating It?

Ok, so you guys broke up. You feel terrible about it. That's fine. People break up all the time. You shouldn't think the world has come to an end and everything you've worked for has died just like your relationship has. Remember that you are an individual. You were an individual before meeting your date. You were an individual while you were going out with your date. And you're still an individual after.

Unfortunately, what winds up happening is that we lose a little piece of ourselves in a relationship that is unbalanced. An unhealthy relationship is like a cancer. It festers and grows until you have a tumor (a little side note, studies have shown stress can cause tumors). Besides, you really want to start finding your zen and getting in touch with who you once were. You can do it. It's not hard but you have to start the healing process now.

Holding on to what happened is just like eating high fat food after starving yourself for a day. Your body is going to hold on to that stuff for dear life. Your body goes into starvation mode and just doesn't let go of the fat. You know, you're mind works kinda like that with stress. If you continue to stress the past, it'll just multiply and you'll never feel better. Time to flush the flat, or in a sense, flush those negative feelings out.

Detox! Mental detox that is. Get yourself something great. Buy clothes, in fact, go shopping. Nothing like shopping therapy to make you feel great. Treat yourself and you'll be moving on in no time.

If you're the kinda chick that like to get active, re-kindle those feelings and go rock climbing. If you're someone who doesn't take risks, go rock climbing. If you like doing something different, go rock climbing. The point is, go rock climbing... just kidding. The real point is to go do something different and make it something active. You want to let go of that bad energy. What better way to expend it... go rock climbing, lol.

Get yourself better by actually trying to be better. If you don't, you'll only make yourself sick. Probably even crazy. Moving on is not easy, but its also a new experience. Grab life by the horns and don't fear the future. Go after happiness. Reaching your happy place does not have to be hard.

Actually it's one of the reasons why most people don't find happiness. People think it's unreachable. Getting over an ex is not difficult. If you believe in yourself, then you can do anything. There is this fantastic book that I read not to long ago that I would seriously recommend you reading. It's informative and it will help you get over your ex in no time. The author has helped 50,000 people overcome their problems and it's such an easy read. To find out more click here.

How Do I Save My Relationship!? How Do I Stop A Divorce From Happening!?

“I’m really worried. I feel that my husband isn’t listening to me. He doesn’t even want to talk to me anymore…”

“I don’t know what to do with my wife man. She’s killing me with all the questions. I can’t even go to the bathroom without being asked ‘where you goin’?”

“I love my best friend man. My wife is incredible, but lately she’s been real cold man. I have no clue if I said something that pissed her off or if I forgot something important. I feel like a moron but I have no idea. I think we might be breaking up. You know… getting a divorce…”

Listen, divorce is not the answer. And truthfully, it should never get there. The last you want to be is another part in the 60% statistic of failed marriages. Just take a deep break and relax. The both of you need to relax. If she’s not listening to you, or if he’s simply ignoring you, then clearly the issue here is communication. Even if the both of you are talking, if your words fall on deaf ears, then are you really communicating?

Your husband might just want some space. Your wife just needs a little affection. Look for the root of the issue and tackle it! Don’t let the strongest asset you both have go to waste. Here are a few things:

Get Into Your Partner's Head

And no, I don’t mean inception... or maybe I do? Anyway, the point is that the both of you might just need to step into your partners’ shoes and walk a mile. Meaning, see what they like to do and take an active interest in it. You might find that you like it too. Plus it will show your partner that you care enough about them.

Give Me Space

The biggest issue with living together is giving your partner space. It’s necessary every now and then. Space is especially important when one is not receptive to talking. So if you see that just let it be. Your spouse will come around soon. Your spouse won’t be coming around if you’re pestering them.

Show Me Affection

We all need love… Seriously, we do. Evil geniuses need love to. Although, only a mother’s love could help that. But anyway, show some affection. Sometimes with our busy lives we do our best to push those closest to us, the furthest away. Stop  yourself from doing that and give you spouse a hug. If he is doing the dishes, come up behind him, hug him, and remind him that you love him. If your wife is wearing something nice, COMPLIMENT HER! She wants to feel sexy, make it happen.

If you follow these tips you both will be on your way to saving your relationship. However, it’s important to note that you guys will have to actually take these steps in order for them to work. I recently read a wonderful book on relationship help and it’s a fantastic read. It’s called the Magic of Making Up. He’s helped more than 50,000 couples get back together after having some serious issues. If you’re looking for more tips and wonderful marriage advice, head over here.

One Effective Way To Communicate With Your Ex

The other day I was jogging around my neighborhood when I caught a glimpse of a couple arguing. Of course, because I'm super nosey, I decided to jog just a tad bit slower. I noticed that they were arguing about how 'she doesn't allow him to get his words in' and about how 'he never listens to her.' It seemed to me that this couple could use a little advice because they were going at it.

I continued jogging, asking myself "how can two people communicate if they can't verbally? So I thought about a friend who once told me that no one ever writes to each other anymore. And no, he didn't mean typing up a letter. I mean, it's true, no one hand-writes letters anymore.

So I put it to the test. I got home and hand wrote two letters. I put a very simple message in both and mailed it out. My significant other called me immediately to tell me how much it meant to them to get a hand-written letter. The other person was my mother, who also called me up immediately and told me how incredibly sweet it was for her to get such a thoughtful 'gift'. The gift of words. The gift of giving your time to do something meaningful for another person.

A hand-written letter can change EVERYTHING! Someone in your life could be having a terrible day. They open their mailbox and see an unexpected letter from you. They open it and find an awesome message about how much you care for them. This will brighten up their day immensely. So now, how could this technique possibly help you fix your relationship with your ex?

For a long time you've been wanting to talk to your ex. You miss your ex terribly but every time you've seen each other you guys just fight, fight, fight. Maybe, because of the hurt and pain you both still feel, it is better to find a different way of communicating. Thus, here is where the wonderful pen and paper technique comes in.

Do not type a letter. Write it out with your own hand. Give yourself the opportunity to pour your heart, body, and mind into the paper. What you'll find is that you'll have a lot to say, and every word will be important. Now, this will also mean a whole lot to your ex because they will get a chance to actually communicate with you, without the arguments, and without the interruptions. This is such an incredible tool to use especially if verbal communication is not possible. A hand-written letter is not only unexpected, its also very appreciated.

If you're thinking, "how can a letter help me get my ex back when s/he doesn't like to read?" Well, to be honest, you can't force anyone to read anything. However, curiosity will set in and they'll want to read what you've sent them. Since no one really "writes" anymore, anyone would be curious to find out what hand-written message you have for them. You might even get a hand-written response! But the most important part of writing the letter is the satisfaction you'll get of getting your feelings out on paper and sending it off to the universe. It's a liberating feeling and one you should definitely try!  You'll transfer all of the pent up energy you have into a wonderful note and letting the universe work its magic. Give it a shot.

This technique is also one that T Dub Jacksons mentions in his incredible book The Magic Of Making Up. He shares his experiences and he's helped so many couples save their relationships. It's an easy read and one that I totally recommend if you're looking for solid advice on how to get your ex back.

Getting Back With Your Ex Girlfriend Should Be Easy Right?

And yet it's not. Us guys have a certain way of approaching problems. Let me tell you, if you've already tried to get back with your girlfriend, then clearly what you're doing is wrong. In fact, what you really need to do is take it slow. Let the break up sink in, and then make your move. I know it's hard because you love her deeply, but you gotta stay strong man. There are a few things that women absolutely hate, and you gotta know what to do.

1. Weakness
NOT to be confused with sensitivity. If you're a sensitive guy, that's fantastic. You have the ability to feel what most guys wish they could. Unfortunately, being too sensitive is a curse. You'll have to stay with me on this one. Weakness is signified by giving in to harmful, negative indulgences. By that, I mean giving up on the rest of your life. Staying in bed all day. Avoiding your friends. Etc. Get over it, seriously. You need to dust yourself off and keep on living. Once you do that, you'll be able to take the necessary steps to mend your relationship and possibly, get back with your ex.

2. Tracking (A Nicer Word For Stalking)
Yes I said it. Stalking. If you stalk her and she finds out, you'll get slapped with cuffs or a restraining order. You need to give your girl some space. Remember, you're only doing more damage to your psyche if you follow her every movement. You'll most likely find nothing. And the prospect of having found nothing will only perpetuate your search to find something. Leave her alone for a while and focus on you. You need the "me" time.

3. Social Media Affliction
Just like mistake 2, tracking her whereabouts and harassing her friends for information is a no-no. Also, posting comments on her Facebook is a HUGE no-no. Not only will that irritate the heck out of her, but you'll also be airing out your dirty laundry for the whole world to see. Stuff on social media sites spread like wildfire. So be careful what you put on anyone's wall. Give her space and use this time to your advantage. You'll need it for what comes next.

4. Decompress
This is where the fun happens. Although you'll probably continue thinking about your ex girlfriend, keep your chin up and go out there and have fun. Go out with the guys to a restaurant, pool hall, arcade (if they still have them). Or even invite them over to your place and just chill out watching movies, playing board games, and enjoy a few beers. You'll benefit from seeing your friends and having the opportunity to decompress. You'll also have a talk with the guys about what happened between you and your ex. This may just be the fresh perspective you've been looking for. We are our own worst enemy, so remember to drive negative thoughts away by keeping yourself occupied and not giving in, or giving up.

5. Date
This is important so listen up. The purpose of you dating is not to make her jealous that you're dating someone else. Seriously, you'll be breaking the heart of the girl you're dating. That's not cool. When you're ready to be out there again, date for fun and enjoyment. Don't get into anything serious at first. Your ex girlfriend will catch wind that you've been moving on and she may question if she's done the right thing. She may even wanna talk!

Let's say you're ready to date again but you don't want to date anyone else. That's awesome too. You can continue to be a bachelor for a while. However, once the dust has settled, take the opportunity to contact your ex and simply apologize. That's it. Give her a call or text her and just simply apologize. This is an effective tool to get her to communicate with you.

It may take her some time, but it will definitely open her heart to being more receptive to what you have to say. In fact, there are more steps that you'll need to take if you want to stand a chance in getting back your ex girlfriend. A lot of these tips and more are in the Magic Of Making Up book that is an incredible read. It has already helped 50,000+ couples, including myself, get back with my ex. Read it. It's fun, readable, and funny.

Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - The Right Way

You've probably just experienced one of the most hurtful break ups in your life. Your boyfriend has probably said some mean things to you, and of course, they sting. However, you can't help but still feel like you love him. Know that you are not wrong in feeling that way. What you and your boyfriend had was very special, and you don't have to lose it. Just stay calm and don't lose your cool. Follow these tips and you'll be right on track to getting back with your ex boyfriend.



1. Acceptance
Your man said it. He doesn't want to be with you anymore. That's a painful statement to make, and hear. However, in order for you to make any progress with your relationship, you'll have to accept his decision. Once you've come to terms with what is, you can start working on what will be.

2. Moving Forward
This one is going to be tough for a little while. Once you've accepted his decision, it'll be your turn to make a decision of your own. Now, if you've noticed that the relationship you guys had was cancerous, you have to ask yourself, "was it because we weren't listening to each other?" What you'll find is that in most cases, this is exactly what happened. So start a dialogue with your ex and talk about what happened and why things went down the way they did. The answers might surprise you.

3. Date Again
Once you've actually taken the time to sit down and analyze what happened between you guys, you'll have an opportunity to start dating again. Here's the fun part. You can actually start dating your ex again. However, it is super important to note that your ex boyfriend has to be willing to date you. Forcing him on a date will only make him feel angry and awkward. If he's open to the idea of a coffee date or lunch date, that's great. Dating in the day has less of a "dating" feeling and more of a "pals hanging out." In the beginning, you'll want this. Here is where you'll have the wonderful opportunity of re-establishing a friendship, which is imperative to have if you want to stand any chance of starting something back up with your ex boyfriend.

4. Get Inside (His Head That Is)
Now, this doesn't mean go psycho on him or stalking him. What you'll want to do is simply probe him. Ask questions. Don't be afraid to talk about the rough stuff. If he is uncommunicative, respect that and leave it alone for a while. There is nothing worse to a man than someone pestering him about something he is not ready to talk about. Put feeler questions out there to gauge his receptiveness. If he's opening up, ease him into it. Don't just ask him things like, "why did you leave me?!" A more appropriate question would be, "was there something I could have done differently?" That way, you remove him from the spotlight and center it on you indirectly.

5. Apologize
Even if you did nothing wrong, apologize. Apologize for not being what he needed you to be. Don't beg for him to take you back. Simply apologize and don't expect one back! You'll step out of the conversation feeling more dignified if you apologized and transferred the negativity that surrounded you, out of you. This is an important step as well. Apologizing serves as a buffer to all steps. It also opens his heart to receptivity.

Getting your ex boyfriend back doesn't have to be difficult. Just remember to stay positive and remove all negativity surrounding the issue. I know it's going to be tough for a little while. Just stay strong. For more incredible tips, I sincerely suggest reading the book Magic Of Making Up. It's an excellent book with great tips and real advice that will help you get your boyfriend back.

Getting Back Together With Your Ex After A Break Up

So you just broke up with your ex and you're probably feeling really crappy. The break up didn't go smoothly and you both feel raw about it. You feel like you did everything you could to save it and yet, you're the "bad guy". That really sucks especially since the reason why you broke up with your ex in the first place is because you guys, at one point, stopped appreciating and loving each other.

You're still in love though. It hurts to know that you won't be with your ex anymore. It hurts like crazy. I've been there. But to be honest, this may be the answer that you've been looking for. Breaking up with your ex is rough, but it does give you guys the opportunity to think things over. You both need the space. That much is true. Here are a few easy things to do to help clear your mind and get you on the track to getting back with your ex.

1. Find Your Zen
Seriously, you'll need to find balance. I know that at first breaking up with your ex is hard. But you must do everything within your power to regain control and focus on balance. If not, you'll walk around feeling lop-sided all the time.

2. Be The Bigger (Wo)Man
All this means is, take the first step to repairing the damage that has been done. Yes, that means you need to take the initiative and apologize first. Even if you were right the WHOLE time, you need to apologize. This way, your ex will know that you have really taken their feelings into consideration.

3. Talk To Your Friends
This is actually a pretty important step. Since you're still hurt about breaking up with your ex, you'll want to really open up and talk to someone about it. This is going to help you diffuse the problems you've faced with them. Let's be honest. In the heat of the moment, we're not really considering the others' feelings, nor do we care (at that moment). So being angry blinded you from the problems. Talking it out with a friend will help you see the problems more clearly.

4. Read Books To Escape
At first this sounds kind of silly, but you really do need to escape reality for a while. If you're constantly bogged down by the way that you feel, you'll never have the opportunity to rise up. Reading is an excellent way to escape the current problems you have. Who knows, you might even find real answers in your fictional tale ;).

And lastly, get someone else's opinion. Trying to work things on your own is one way to fight the demons of the relationship, however, remember that it took the two of you to break up. So if you're looking for some kind of solution, be persistent. The answers will come to you. It's called patience and not giving up. But first you must work on yourself. Getting back together with your ex after a break up will be quite a challenge if you're still flustered. For more incredible tips and helpful advice on dealing with your ex, please head on over the creator of the Magic Of Making Up book. It's an incredibly easy to read and fun book to have. It has practical and easy to follow advice that anyone can follow. This guy since 2008 has helped 50,000+ couples get back together, and I know he'll have the solution for you.