Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - The Right Way

You've probably just experienced one of the most hurtful break ups in your life. Your boyfriend has probably said some mean things to you, and of course, they sting. However, you can't help but still feel like you love him. Know that you are not wrong in feeling that way. What you and your boyfriend had was very special, and you don't have to lose it. Just stay calm and don't lose your cool. Follow these tips and you'll be right on track to getting back with your ex boyfriend.



1. Acceptance
Your man said it. He doesn't want to be with you anymore. That's a painful statement to make, and hear. However, in order for you to make any progress with your relationship, you'll have to accept his decision. Once you've come to terms with what is, you can start working on what will be.

2. Moving Forward
This one is going to be tough for a little while. Once you've accepted his decision, it'll be your turn to make a decision of your own. Now, if you've noticed that the relationship you guys had was cancerous, you have to ask yourself, "was it because we weren't listening to each other?" What you'll find is that in most cases, this is exactly what happened. So start a dialogue with your ex and talk about what happened and why things went down the way they did. The answers might surprise you.

3. Date Again
Once you've actually taken the time to sit down and analyze what happened between you guys, you'll have an opportunity to start dating again. Here's the fun part. You can actually start dating your ex again. However, it is super important to note that your ex boyfriend has to be willing to date you. Forcing him on a date will only make him feel angry and awkward. If he's open to the idea of a coffee date or lunch date, that's great. Dating in the day has less of a "dating" feeling and more of a "pals hanging out." In the beginning, you'll want this. Here is where you'll have the wonderful opportunity of re-establishing a friendship, which is imperative to have if you want to stand any chance of starting something back up with your ex boyfriend.

4. Get Inside (His Head That Is)
Now, this doesn't mean go psycho on him or stalking him. What you'll want to do is simply probe him. Ask questions. Don't be afraid to talk about the rough stuff. If he is uncommunicative, respect that and leave it alone for a while. There is nothing worse to a man than someone pestering him about something he is not ready to talk about. Put feeler questions out there to gauge his receptiveness. If he's opening up, ease him into it. Don't just ask him things like, "why did you leave me?!" A more appropriate question would be, "was there something I could have done differently?" That way, you remove him from the spotlight and center it on you indirectly.

5. Apologize
Even if you did nothing wrong, apologize. Apologize for not being what he needed you to be. Don't beg for him to take you back. Simply apologize and don't expect one back! You'll step out of the conversation feeling more dignified if you apologized and transferred the negativity that surrounded you, out of you. This is an important step as well. Apologizing serves as a buffer to all steps. It also opens his heart to receptivity.

Getting your ex boyfriend back doesn't have to be difficult. Just remember to stay positive and remove all negativity surrounding the issue. I know it's going to be tough for a little while. Just stay strong. For more incredible tips, I sincerely suggest reading the book Magic Of Making Up. It's an excellent book with great tips and real advice that will help you get your boyfriend back.