Getting Back With Your Ex Girlfriend Should Be Easy Right?

And yet it's not. Us guys have a certain way of approaching problems. Let me tell you, if you've already tried to get back with your girlfriend, then clearly what you're doing is wrong. In fact, what you really need to do is take it slow. Let the break up sink in, and then make your move. I know it's hard because you love her deeply, but you gotta stay strong man. There are a few things that women absolutely hate, and you gotta know what to do.

1. Weakness
NOT to be confused with sensitivity. If you're a sensitive guy, that's fantastic. You have the ability to feel what most guys wish they could. Unfortunately, being too sensitive is a curse. You'll have to stay with me on this one. Weakness is signified by giving in to harmful, negative indulgences. By that, I mean giving up on the rest of your life. Staying in bed all day. Avoiding your friends. Etc. Get over it, seriously. You need to dust yourself off and keep on living. Once you do that, you'll be able to take the necessary steps to mend your relationship and possibly, get back with your ex.

2. Tracking (A Nicer Word For Stalking)
Yes I said it. Stalking. If you stalk her and she finds out, you'll get slapped with cuffs or a restraining order. You need to give your girl some space. Remember, you're only doing more damage to your psyche if you follow her every movement. You'll most likely find nothing. And the prospect of having found nothing will only perpetuate your search to find something. Leave her alone for a while and focus on you. You need the "me" time.

3. Social Media Affliction
Just like mistake 2, tracking her whereabouts and harassing her friends for information is a no-no. Also, posting comments on her Facebook is a HUGE no-no. Not only will that irritate the heck out of her, but you'll also be airing out your dirty laundry for the whole world to see. Stuff on social media sites spread like wildfire. So be careful what you put on anyone's wall. Give her space and use this time to your advantage. You'll need it for what comes next.

4. Decompress
This is where the fun happens. Although you'll probably continue thinking about your ex girlfriend, keep your chin up and go out there and have fun. Go out with the guys to a restaurant, pool hall, arcade (if they still have them). Or even invite them over to your place and just chill out watching movies, playing board games, and enjoy a few beers. You'll benefit from seeing your friends and having the opportunity to decompress. You'll also have a talk with the guys about what happened between you and your ex. This may just be the fresh perspective you've been looking for. We are our own worst enemy, so remember to drive negative thoughts away by keeping yourself occupied and not giving in, or giving up.

5. Date
This is important so listen up. The purpose of you dating is not to make her jealous that you're dating someone else. Seriously, you'll be breaking the heart of the girl you're dating. That's not cool. When you're ready to be out there again, date for fun and enjoyment. Don't get into anything serious at first. Your ex girlfriend will catch wind that you've been moving on and she may question if she's done the right thing. She may even wanna talk!

Let's say you're ready to date again but you don't want to date anyone else. That's awesome too. You can continue to be a bachelor for a while. However, once the dust has settled, take the opportunity to contact your ex and simply apologize. That's it. Give her a call or text her and just simply apologize. This is an effective tool to get her to communicate with you.

It may take her some time, but it will definitely open her heart to being more receptive to what you have to say. In fact, there are more steps that you'll need to take if you want to stand a chance in getting back your ex girlfriend. A lot of these tips and more are in the Magic Of Making Up book that is an incredible read. It has already helped 50,000+ couples, including myself, get back with my ex. Read it. It's fun, readable, and funny.